David King, MSc, PhD
Writer, Teacher, and Health Psychologist


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"We need not to be let alone. We need to be
really bothered once in a while. How long
is it since you were really bothered? About something important, about something
real?" (Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451)
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Living in the Moment

Many Worlds Between

by David King on October 15, 2016

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It seems, after all, that in this one we find ourselves together.

There is a theory in quantum physics called the many-worlds interpretation, which postulates the existence of an infinite number of alternate universes, each with a slight variation on past and each with multiple variations on future to come. It is the idea that everything that could have happened in this universe did happen in another, thereby denying the collapse of any given wave of potential in any given moment – and creating an infinite sequence of alternate realities defined by the could-haves and should-haves of here-and-now. Each is real, yet only one is known. This is ours.

For all its fantastical claims, the many-worlds theory is a real one among physicists – whose mental wrestling with the curiosities and impossibilities of the quantum world will likely persist for … Keep Reading Here

Fill It Wisely, Fill It With Love Stories

by David King on February 14, 2013

David (1987)

Do we all want the same things?

I’m 31 years old, and I’m not sure of everything I want.

But I am sure of some things…

I want adventure. When I was young, I wanted to be a paleontologist, an astronomer, and a zoologist all in the span of five or six years. My nights were spent dreaming of space, and my days were spent sketching dinosaurs and building sewers out of cardboard for my Ninja Turtle action figures. Today, adventure is dreamed up a little differently, as something closer to seeing the world. Ideally, I would save it, if such an adventure were possible.

I want stability. The most stable time in my life was when my parents were together and I never knew of loss. I remember feeling this extreme sense of sadness and grief over the mere … Keep Reading Here

Remnants Heard

by David King on January 30, 2013

In my time spent as an actual adult (which has really only been about a third of my life), my perspective on time has experienced a remarkable shift. Days are no longer only escapist opportunities for future wonderment and anticipation. While some distortion of this remains, days are also opportunities for deep reflection and reminiscence – the stuff born of more mature realities. The stuff that regrets are made of, if you have dared to digress.

I don’t know what to do with it all, really. After five big moves in five years, a lot of loss, and a few heartaches to wear on my sleeve, I feel surrounded by it. The residue is thick, and the remnants plentiful. I look around my place, and it’s right there, in everything I see. It’s in both new and old, both bought … Keep Reading Here

Life as the ‘Enchantment Under the Sea’ Dance

by David King on August 8, 2012

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In the movie Back to the Future, a pivotal moment surrounds Marty McFly’s ability to cement his parents’ romance – in the past. His entire existence – his future – hinges on this.

See, George McFly and Lorraine Baine had originally fallen in love at the ‘Enchantment Under the Sea’ Dance on November 12, 1955. This is where they had their first kiss, and their subsequent romance led to the eventual birth of Marty some years later. Unfortunately, Marty’s journey to the past (via one Dr. Emmett Brown, a flux capacitor, and a suped up DeLorean) jeopardized this pivotal moment, threatening his own existence and that of his two siblings.

In a few desperate seconds, as Marty begins fading from existence, George and Lorraine have their kiss after all, barely evading an entirely new Marty-less future.

It struck me, … Keep Reading Here

In the End.

by David King on December 5, 2011

More often than not, the end is all we see. And who can blame us? The end is guaranteed. The end is definite. The end is always there, waiting, patiently or otherwise.

There is a lot of talk among us humans of living in the moment. It seems to be something we all strive for – some sort of golden ticket that’s forever dangling at arm’s reach, just inches from our fingertips, nearly attainable but never quite so. When you consider that even a Tibetan monk plans ahead for long meditations by stretching, you might agree that it’s time to rethink this moment stuff.

So what’s in a moment? Not much at all really…seconds at best, maybe a minute, if you can hold onto it. THIS is a moment, THAT was a moment, you’re in a moment right now, or … Keep Reading Here

Living in the NOW and the cards we’re NOT dealt

by David King on January 23, 2011

I feel compelled to return to this notion of “living in the moment.”

I have come to the strongly held, now frequently rehearsed, and both emotionally and rationally considered conclusion that living in the moment is, in its basic and standard form, a potentially hazardous ideation. In theory, and from a strictly optimistic perspective, it works: Live in the moment, escape the confines of the past and abandon the worries of the future; focus on the here-and-now, and be attentive to the beautiful details of life that are often overlooked.

The problem, of course, is that millions of years of evolution have led to a sophisticated self-consciousness that facilitates both long-term memory and complex consideration of future events. It allows us to view our lives in such a way that we continuously move from past to future, often overlooking the … Keep Reading Here

Dream but Assume Not

by David King on September 22, 2010

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The truth is, we don’t know a damned thing about anything.

In the moment, of course, we think we do. Sometimes we think we have it all figured out, that we’ve somehow become aware of the greater plan. In such moments, we are surely always mistaken, for nothing ever fits that neatly into the box that is our life. This is not to say that moments of “clarity” are wasted; to the contrary, they are valuable and meaningful experiences that help to guide us, to move us forward. Nevertheless, to ever assume that the full path is known, or that the universe is correcting itself, is to express the up most naivety. We are but a small collection of particles in the grand scheme of things, and our knowledge is limited to this time and space – to here and … Keep Reading Here

Throughout life, there exist moments in which time slows nearly to a halt. These moments are offset by equally startling (yet less indulgent) moments in which time moves at an impossible speed, propelling us into a future with which we’ve barely engaged or considered. In either moment, however, the result is the same: Time ceases to exist.

These moments are often enriched by the rare experience of flow – the perception of a momentary existence void of any past or present, any self-conscious considerations, any negative emotions, and any worry or concern. To stumble upon these moments is surely nothing short of miraculous, as they validate a human existence which is not at all meaningless, regardless of an individual’s convictions.

And then there are signs, synchronistic indications that you are on the right path (or perhaps rather, that there is … Keep Reading Here

For the Love of Time

by David King on August 7, 2009

There are moments – here and there, now and then – in which one’s perception of time changes or shifts. Time may seem to slow, or to speed up, or to stop altogether, if even for a moment. This relative quality of time may not be exactly what Einstein spoke of in his Theory of Relativity, but in many ways, it may be more intriguing (particularly from a psychological perspective).

Moments…perhaps lasting only seconds, which provide us with an extraordinary perspective on life that might best be described as magical. But what do we make of them once they pass? How do we hold on to these moments of flow? What do we do with these feelings of NOW?

It seems that some situations or circumstances may more readily produce such time-bending sensations: pain, grief, love, awe, and of course … Keep Reading Here