Knowing Who You Are

Forever Bound: An Adventurer’s Angst

by David King on March 18, 2013

I’m a romantic, but not in the way that’s restricted to love and relationships. I’m a romantic in the most traditional sense of the word – I have a spirit for adventure, a need for excitement, and an eye for mystery. I want to see things that have never been seen, do things that have never been done, and feel things that exceed the ordinary and mundane.

I want to scrape the stratosphere with the soles of my shoes, dance with the darkness of the deepest seas; I want to climb the highest mountains and keep climbing higher, for to stop is to become complacent, and complacency doesn’t mix well with adventure. Nor does the modern world.

From what I can tell, the world has all but extinguished real opportunity for adventure. Discovery is a near relic of times past, … Keep Reading Here


Self-Actualization: The Struggle Eternal

by David King on October 23, 2012

Pick up any first year psychology textbook and you’ll learn about self-actualization, a pinnacle stage of psychological development defined by the realization of one’s full potential. According to Abraham Maslow (the theory’s author), less than 1% of the human population will ever self-actualize. This is surely to the disappointment of nearly 7 billion fragile psyches…

But you see, the realization of one’s potential isn’t about bringing home the bacon. Indeed, it’s about something much deeper than that, something with much more substance – more muchness, as the Mad Hatter might put it.

Self-actualization is about YOU in the truest sense of the word. It’s about digging as deeply as you can dig. It’s about wading through all the garbage – the expectations, the pressures, the demands, the insecurities, and the hurt – and realizing the most authentic version of … Keep Reading Here


Knowing Who You Are, Myth 4

by David King on October 3, 2012

In a previous post, Knowing Who You Are, Myths 1-3, I outlined 3 prevailing myths associated with modern identity formation. Very roughly, these myths ascribe the following conditions to knowing who you are: 1) this state requires consistent and predictable behaviour, as perceived by others; 2) this state is impossible without mainly logical and rational examination and exploration of life; and 3) this state is optimized by the commitment to a single life trajectory or career path, which, after all, typifies a strong sense of self.

As I previously indicated, these perspectives are bullshit, remnants of an immature and entirely uninsightful stage of human development. Things are never so black and white.

There is a fourth myth, but this one resides somewhere between identity formation and identity resolution. The fourth myth is simple, really. It is the idea … Keep Reading Here